Posted on November 12, 2007
Why do men date older women? The answer is simple, but first we have to eliminate the one-night stands and weekend romps, because that isn’t dating by anyone’s book. More often than not, those get togethers are based on physical attraction or alcohol-addled judgment. Men who date older women are looking for something more and someone who makes them better; a constant challenge in the best way. Older women tend to be more secure with themselves, know what they want and are willing to wait for it. Mature guys are looking for these women. We want women who force us to push ourselves, who make us want to be more, not by making us feel like less, but by encouraging our strengths.
When getting into a serious relationship, both men and women look for someone who is interested in the same commitment. Everyone has the point in his or her life when he or she dates around, searching for qualities they like and habits they want to avoid. What’s worse than being in a relationship that one person wants more than the other? When men finally commit to a single person they want someone who has put this search behind them, so that both can concentrate on building the relationship at hand.
We like to be our best for women, and we love finding women who encourage us to strive to be even better. Older women are less likely to compromise or let us fall below our potential, so those are the women we so willingly seek. It would be a disservice to both ourselves and our women to settle for a companion who won’t insist that we constantly endeavor to be everything we’re capable of being.
Aaron Stewart is a senior English major.
It is common knowledge that typically and statistically, younger women date older men. From a primitive aspect, females look to men for comfort and protection—two things likely to be found in an older, more experienced male. Maybe our aptness to date older men is biological—a survival mechanism that has never been morphed out of our chemical makeup.
On a superficial level, maybe we date older men simply because more often than not, they are the ones who approach us. Older women may have higher expectations, be more intimidating and judgmental and know exactly how they want and deserve to be treated.
In relationships, an older boyfriend can serve as a mentor. Younger women can admire and look up to him, for he may have already faced the trials and tribulations she may be experiencing. It is a provable fact that girls mature at a faster rate than boys, so at the college age it is not a surprise that women want to find somebody who can connect with them on the same level.
So whether it is the goal of young women to meet the man they wish to marry in college, or simply have fun by dating and socializing with as many guys as they can, women have the undeniable urge to date older men.
Often, guys get a bad rap for going for younger girls. If it is only a difference of a few years, who could blame guys for going for the “fresh meat”? I’m sure it’s intimidating enough to approach a woman, let alone one who is likely to give a prompt and polite awkward rejection. Younger women are more likely to take flattery to heart and thrive in the attention.
Kathleen Strachan is a freshman SMAD major.
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