Food, water, sleep, air, sex. We all know we need sex to secure the future of humankind, but when is the right time to take a relationship to the next step and make the beast with two backs?
After pondering this question, I’ve found that there are basically three schools of thought. The first being that the first date is the prime time for the bed boogie, the second stating that a couple should wait until marriage before bumping uglies and the third school of thought, which lies somewhere in the middle, teaches that two people shouldn’t explore the sensual art of carnal gymnastics until they are both comfortable with each other and have had time to grow close, which could take one week or one year—maybe longer.
During the 1960s, sexual revolution hippies, in between needlepoint groups and chocolate chip cookie bake-offs, decided that their parents’ old rules of monogamy and abstinence no longer applied in their modern age of microwave ovens and automatic telephone-answering machines, choosing free love instead. They may have been smelly, but these gentle hippies changed the way we Americans view relationships and sex.
What do bears, elephants, turtles and humans have in common? They all dance the matrimonial polka. If humans were not able to do the five knuckle shuffle, then our species would die out. So does this mean that sex is the most important thing in the world? Some would argue yes, and I would say that they are probably correct. To flop in the hay is to take part in the most natural act there is and so there should be no shame or embarrassment in it. Humans have evolved past our primate ancestors to become the sex machines we are today. It means that to deny our desires to enjoy a four-legged frolic is to deny the very thing that makes us human.
Doing the horizontal hustle can be an experience that joins two people on a deep level and takes them to a calm, worry-free cloud of ecstasy. There is nothing more pure, raw, powerful and beautiful than sex and couples who feel they’re ready to take their relationship to a more profound level should experience it as frequently as possible. So ask yourself, even though all the cool kids at the local arcade practice abstinence, is sex really worth not having?
David Hazel is a junior computer science major.
Most of us know sex is splendid, and it’s human nature for all of us to desire it. However, do we truly comprehend the utter intensity that is a by-product of the act of sex? I would venture to say that the majority of us have no clue.
Breaking out the “S” word should mean treading on sacred soil. Sex, at its peak in intimacy and fulfillment, is an act shared between two persons who care deeply for one other, regardless of gender, color or religion.
But countless people, especially college students, do not view sex as something to be revered. “Sex is sex is sex,” explains the world, without regard to the depth of oneness that is experienced through two people having sex. An acquaintance once told me, “It’s skin against skin. You can’t put sex on a pedestal.” I disagreed heatedly. Sex is soul against soul, not something to be given out unreservedly.
Because of this boundary, I believe couples that actually desire a future together should ideally wait a very long time before they begin having sex. At the very least, they should wait until they are steadfast in that they are in love with each other. Commitment ought to be a prerequisite for sex, not a post-coital possibility. Having sex too soon in a relationship can stunt its growth by causing the partners’ focus to deviate from the inner persons themselves and concentrate on the lascivious desires of the flesh.
Newsflash to collegians: there are actually alternatives to getting to know someone via getting acquainted with their genitals. Most people that choose abstinence until marriage do so for religious reasons. Although I am neither religious nor practicing abstinence, I do not consider this idea of abstinence to be so dreadful. A partner never has to wonder if he or she is just being used for sex. STDs are likely not an issue. When pregnancy occurs within the fold of marriage, it makes for less of an “ohnowhatarewegonnado?!” situation because it is usually celebrated.
Sex is sex, and sex is spectacular. If you want to have the most electrifying and fulfilling sex life imaginable, I suggest you enjoy it within the freedom of a caring, committed relationship.
Sarah Teach is a sophomore dietetics major.
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