Lecturers share secret of female orgasm
Posted on February 14, 2008
This Valentine’s Day season, JMU students learned how to love the female orgasm.
As part of the University Program Board’s relationship series, sex and relationship educators Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller educated students on how to familiarize themselves with their bodies, how work past the misconceptions of sexual education, and how to give, and receive, the perfect female orgasm.
Solot and Miller encouraged students to talk without inhibition the entire evening. Answering questions ranging from the truth behind female ejaculation to importance of the clitoris, the duo provided a funny, no holds-bar approach to sex education.
Above all else, the pair encouraged students to become comfortable with their bodies and to not be afraid to touch themselves, not just to figure out what they enjoy sexually but to keep track of possible health risks.
Solot knows the importance of this first hand. At 26 years old she was lying in bed when she happened to run her hand across her breast, noticing a small lump that had not been there before. A month later, at a routine check up, she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
“The fact that I was comfortable with my sexuality may have saved my life,” she said. Last year was her eighth year in remission.
The pair has toured the country, presenting more than 350 programs at colleges and universities, businesses, churches, regional and national conferences and adult education centers. Solot and Miller have gained media attention as well, appearing in magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Men’s Health and television shows such as The O ‘Reilly Factor.
“We’re also a couple, so we have professional experience as well as personal experience,” Solot said.
The couple came to JMU after junior Erik Hernandez read their book, “I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide,” and saw that they toured college campuses. He thought the program could benefit students who had been told that sex was bad and were taught abstinence over safety.
“I thought that in a school that has about 12,000 girls and 4,000 guys this would be a a perfect program,” he said.
Hernandez contacted UPB in June, and the group worked to get the duo on campus. Once the plans were set and the group knew that Solot and Miller were set to come in February, UPB started promoting the event. Despite advertising, members were surprised by the student response.
“We had expected 400 people and there were about 1,200 who showed up,” said sophomore Kelly Patullo, director of special events for UPB, adding that the group had to make more space within the Festival Ballroom to accommodate students. Even with the provisions students were crammed into the room, sitting on the floor, in the aisles and in front of the stage.
Students’ reactions were positive. While some came to gain more experience in the art of lovemaking, others enjoyed being able to talk openly about relationships and sexual health.
“[I came because] I could use practice learning about the female orgasm,” freshman Sal D’Angelo said.
His roommate, freshman Taylor Chiarenza, came for similar reasons.
“I wanted to learn more about [the female orgasm] for my girlfriend,” he said.
The females in the crowd, however, seemed to come for different reasons.
“Female orgasms aren’t really talked about,” freshman Ivy Walker said. “I thought it was a good way to get more information.”
Freshman Erin Kwiatkoski also learned a lot from attending the event. She said her favorite part of performance was when Miller took the men out of the ballroom and down to the Highlands room for a separate discussion.
“It made it easier to talk without inhibition,” she said.
The crowd’s excitement didn’t go unnoticed.
“JMU was an incredibly large and enthusiastic crowd,” Solot said. “I would say that JMU is all about the O.”
