New 'comical' book encourages women not to wait around

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Thank you, "Sex and the City" — you never cease to amaze me.

Once again, the show I love has planted an incredible and eye-opening idea in my brain. "Sex and the City" writers Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo created "He’s Just Not That Into You," which finally has allowed me to understand boys.

And guess what — there’s not that much to figure out.

Like many other girls, I’ve allowed myself to make excuses for the guys in my life for too long. After reading this book those days are behind me.

"He’s Just Not That Into You" is abrupt, honest and in-your-face. Don’t read this if you still want to think that guy in your life who is "just confused" or has "trust issues" is worth your time. According to the all-knowing Behrendt, guys don’t think that they’re scared or insecure — those are just excuses.

Behrendt knows a guy will pursue a girl with everything he has if he truly likes her. However, he would rather lose his arm out a city bus window than have to tell another girl she’s not the one. In his own words, "We are quite sure you will kill us or yourself or both — or even worse, cry and yell at us," Behrendt said. "We are pathetic."

Hah. It all makes sense now. Those unreturned phone calls, ignored text messages, those excuses like "I’ve been burned in the past before, so starting something is scary" all essentially are a load of crap that translate into "I’m just not that into you."

What a defining moment to finally hear this for myself.

You would think this news would be harsh to take, but in fact, it’s just the opposite. I couldn’t get enough of what Behrendt and Tuccillo had to say. Bottom line — if he’s not calling you, then he’s just not that into you. If he’s not dating you, then he’s just not that into you. If he only wants to be with you when he’s drunk, then he’s just not that into you.

I feel so liberated. I’ve spent far too long waiting on a few guys, hoping they would see they wanted to be with me. But I’m done wasting my time.

Behrendt’s sarcastic yet comical commentary on the inner workings of the male brain (as simple as he makes them seem) and Tuccillo’s unique strategies for dealing with crappy boyfriends will make you laugh out loud, even if you aren’t willing to accept them quite yet.

But even better than laughs is the ego boost you’ll get. Behrendt reassuringly knows we all are amazing, intelligent, beautiful girls, and that if one guy can’t see that, then we need to go find the one who can.